WORD From The Woods
Philemon 1:12-16
“12 I am sending him back to you, sending my very heart. 13 I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, 14 but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. 15 For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, 16 no longer as a bondservant but more than a bondservant, as a beloved brother—especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.”
This passage beautifully reflects the fragrance of Christ-centered, intimate relationships. We see this in Paul’s relationship with Philemon, where Paul, despite his authority as an elder, chooses to elevate Philemon above himself in humility. Then there is the relationship between Philemon and Onesimus, a bond once strained but is now full of the potential for renewal through the bonds of Christ. Finally, we witness the deep connection between Paul and Onesimus. While the duration of Onesimus’s time with Paul is unclear, it was significant enough for Paul to describe Onesimus as his “very heart.” This powerful statement reveals the profound depth of their bond and offers insight into Paul’s heartfelt affection for him.
One of the most intriguing qualities about Paul was his ability to cultivate such deep bonds with people, especially other believers, wherever he went. A glance at the names listed at the end of each of his epistles showcases the great affection he felt for others. Of course, it’s important to consider the context of Paul’s time. Life in the first century often involved traveling with groups of people for days or weeks depending on where they were going, and in Paul's case, maybe months. Such prolonged interactions naturally fosters closeness and affection. So, it should not surprise us too much that Paul had many close relationships. He not only consistently traveled with people, but he also stayed in certain cities for years, preaching the gospel, starting churches, and knowing the people well enough to be able to appoint elders in those churches, from among their own, who are devout and filled with the Spirit. These are not tasks that can be undertaken flippantly or without intention.
Paul’s emphasis on relationships is also evident in his teachings. The epistles contain over 100 “one another” statements, underscoring the importance of living in close community with other believers. Consider these examples:
For example, this past weekend, I helped my grandfather fill his elk damage tag. At almost 80 years old, his physical capabilities are waning. After he successfully shot a cow elk (400 yd shot), the real challenge began. The elk was 300 yards down a steep clearcut with no road access at the bottom. Due to my grandfather's waning health and growing age, I had to clean and quarter the elk, a task I had never done alone. My 10-year-old daughter was with me, but understandably, she couldn’t contribute much. The process was overwhelming and physically taxing, leaving me sore for days.
Yet the difficulty of the task brought immense rewards. My grandfather was deeply blessed to experience another hunt, knowing the forthcoming hunts are very limited, my daughter had the invaluable experience of being part of a harvest with her dad and great grandfather, and the meat would fill both his freezer and mine. The effort, though exhausting, was profoundly worthwhile.
Similarly, building deep relationships often involves awkwardness, inconvenience, and effort. Sometimes, exhausting effort. Yet, these relationships allow us to confess, repent, encourage, and exhort one another, reaping benefits far beyond what we can imagine. Such connections have eternal significance, shaping our faith journeys and helping us become more Christ-like.
My encouragement to you this week is to take an intentional step toward cultivating a meaningful relationship. Seek out a friend and invest time in building a deeper connection. Remember, relationships take time to grow, but they are essential to your spiritual walk and growth in Christ.
Have a blessed week! -Ethan-
Philemon 1:12-16
“12 I am sending him back to you, sending my very heart. 13 I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, 14 but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. 15 For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, 16 no longer as a bondservant but more than a bondservant, as a beloved brother—especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.”
This passage beautifully reflects the fragrance of Christ-centered, intimate relationships. We see this in Paul’s relationship with Philemon, where Paul, despite his authority as an elder, chooses to elevate Philemon above himself in humility. Then there is the relationship between Philemon and Onesimus, a bond once strained but is now full of the potential for renewal through the bonds of Christ. Finally, we witness the deep connection between Paul and Onesimus. While the duration of Onesimus’s time with Paul is unclear, it was significant enough for Paul to describe Onesimus as his “very heart.” This powerful statement reveals the profound depth of their bond and offers insight into Paul’s heartfelt affection for him.
One of the most intriguing qualities about Paul was his ability to cultivate such deep bonds with people, especially other believers, wherever he went. A glance at the names listed at the end of each of his epistles showcases the great affection he felt for others. Of course, it’s important to consider the context of Paul’s time. Life in the first century often involved traveling with groups of people for days or weeks depending on where they were going, and in Paul's case, maybe months. Such prolonged interactions naturally fosters closeness and affection. So, it should not surprise us too much that Paul had many close relationships. He not only consistently traveled with people, but he also stayed in certain cities for years, preaching the gospel, starting churches, and knowing the people well enough to be able to appoint elders in those churches, from among their own, who are devout and filled with the Spirit. These are not tasks that can be undertaken flippantly or without intention.
Paul’s emphasis on relationships is also evident in his teachings. The epistles contain over 100 “one another” statements, underscoring the importance of living in close community with other believers. Consider these examples:
- Romans 12:10: “Be devoted to one another in love; honor one another above yourselves.”
- Ephesians 4:2-3: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”
- Galatians 5:13: “For you were called to freedom, brothers and sisters; only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.”
- Colossians 3:13: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
- 1 Thessalonians 5:11: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
For example, this past weekend, I helped my grandfather fill his elk damage tag. At almost 80 years old, his physical capabilities are waning. After he successfully shot a cow elk (400 yd shot), the real challenge began. The elk was 300 yards down a steep clearcut with no road access at the bottom. Due to my grandfather's waning health and growing age, I had to clean and quarter the elk, a task I had never done alone. My 10-year-old daughter was with me, but understandably, she couldn’t contribute much. The process was overwhelming and physically taxing, leaving me sore for days.
Yet the difficulty of the task brought immense rewards. My grandfather was deeply blessed to experience another hunt, knowing the forthcoming hunts are very limited, my daughter had the invaluable experience of being part of a harvest with her dad and great grandfather, and the meat would fill both his freezer and mine. The effort, though exhausting, was profoundly worthwhile.
Similarly, building deep relationships often involves awkwardness, inconvenience, and effort. Sometimes, exhausting effort. Yet, these relationships allow us to confess, repent, encourage, and exhort one another, reaping benefits far beyond what we can imagine. Such connections have eternal significance, shaping our faith journeys and helping us become more Christ-like.
My encouragement to you this week is to take an intentional step toward cultivating a meaningful relationship. Seek out a friend and invest time in building a deeper connection. Remember, relationships take time to grow, but they are essential to your spiritual walk and growth in Christ.
Have a blessed week! -Ethan-